What would I do without y’all?
I sat here at this table with my broken laptop and I cried and emotionally vomited all over you all and you wiped it off, held my hair back, and then got me a wet-nap and a toothbrush. Because that’s what friends do.
(Unless you’re my friend Amanda who once dumped the contents of my trashcan into my TOILET because I said I thought I was going to hurl after a particularly awesome night at the TEP house causing me to wake up in the morning to find discarded razors and dental floss and other “stuff” in my TOILET which I had to scoop it out with a serving spoon because I need to pee and didn’t want to wake my roommate by using her bathroom instead.)
Wait…what…
Oh. I’m better now.
Dan read the blog within minutes of it going live and by the time I went into my room to lay down, he was sending me text messages that said
He needs to go back to daycare tomorrow and Friday if possible.
Please. You need it and it’s cheaper than a sitter. I will take him and pick him up. Make sure it’s good with them.
I’d take the dog if I could too. I bet she would have a blast with all those kids.
And go get a mani-pedi and eyebrow wax
And then he said something and I said something and before I knew it we were quoting lines from Back to the Future II and I was laughing. Which is only one of the reasons I love this guy. No matter what, he can always make me laugh. Always.
And then I sent a text to our daycare to find out if there was a spot for him tomorrow. And they do, so he’s going.
I’ll have moments where I feel awful about it because it’ll seem like I’m doing nothing of consequence and he should just be with me because I’m his mother, but at the end of the day when my boys get home and my mind is recharged and my soul is refreshed (and my toes are freshly polished…) I’ll know that this was for the best. That we needed this day apart.
We’re not a dynamic duo of stay-at-home-awesome, no matter how much part of me may want that sometimes. I think that in throwing myself into this temporary-SAHM gig, I’ve tried to forget that this isn’t our normal to pretend, maybe. To try this on.
We’re not used to this, Joshua and me.
Couple that with the 12 days straight Dan worked, the horrible sleep we’ve had for the past several nights, the raging diaper rash that will.not.quit., and the fact that I don’t take care of myself in the summer and you have a recipe for that I post I wrote earlier today about those feelings of being not good enough.
I am good enough. I know that. I was picked to be his mother and he was picked to be my son.
I especially know that after a good nap, an awesome husband, fantastic readers friends, and some pampering to look forward to.
So, I’m better. And I’m thankful.
I totally did not do this while my kids were young. I should have given myself a break!!
enjoy!
Oh I’m soooo glad for you Miranda!!! Your husband truly is awesome.
So happy you’re better ๐
Do it and don’t feel guilty. He’s probably stir crazy because he misses his buddies. Maybe he’s not sleeping because you can’t wear him out like daycare does. I love staying home and wouldn’t trade it for anything, but I wish I had a drop-off place for when I felt like I was going to lose my mind. It’ll make you a better mama.
that’s a good man who knows his wife. I hope you have a much better day tomorrow! One idea…. (hope this doesn’t sound creepy) get in the shower the two of you and just play…. do you have a shower with one of those removeable showerheads/hoses? Those are the best. Nothing can go wrong in there, i tell ya!
As a member of the Dan Fan Club, I have to agree! And I think taking him to daycare once or twice a week is good for him AND you. Please, please, please re-read some of your “I’ve got this!” blog posts that you’ve written in the past whenever you feel like you don’t. You’re an awesome mom that perfectly worded how many of us feel at times. Hang in there!
Yeah!!! Go Dan!!! He gets husband of the year award from me! You and your family will be the better for having these days off. And hey, if you go get that mani pedi on Friday instead of tomorrow, I can go with you in the afternoon after my morning doctor’s appointment. ๐ Beth will be at daycare too!
Oh Miranda, I’m so glad to hear that! You have a wonderful husband!!
*Clapping*
Good. So good. I can go to sleep now knowing that you are being taken care of – and that you’re taking care of yourself. Love you for admitting it’s not all perfect and easy. Love Dan for making this okay for you. Have a wonderful day.
So awesome!
More proof that your husband rocks. (And so do you, for the record, just in case you forgot). I hope you and Joshua are enjoying your day off. It doesn’t matter who you are, sometimes two personalities in close quarters just need some time away from each other.
I’m so glad to read this!
yay! we all need breaks. too much togetherness makes everyone hate everyone.
I’m so glad to see this! I was really worried after reading your last post! I bet your toesies look so purty!
So, I am going to make a confession. Even before B broke his leg, I knew that I needed some time this summer. I am 31 weeks pregnant and I knew that I needed some me time to do the things that I wanted, needed and must get done before we become a family of four. So, B is scheduled to go to daycare 2 days a week for PT care….6 hours a day. And, I have to tell you, it is the best decision my husband and I made. We knew we all needed it. The routine, the freedom,and the peace of mind knowing that he is having fun, loved, and doing things I probably can’ t do with him! Good for you! Hope you had a great day! Think you can swing 1/2 days a week at dc?
Thank the Lord for husbands and friends.
This post made me happy today. You have an awesome husband. I love it. I hope you enjoyed your day today. ๐
What an awesome husband. Enjoy your day.
That’s a pretty awesome guy you have right there. You’re truly lucky!
Oh and it looks like you need a little pick-me-upper though. So here’s a link to the book, that I’ve read lately. It might come in handy when you’re feeling down and blue. ๐ Sure helped me during my breaking down episodes. Here’s the link: http://www.howtostopselfsabotage.com
Oh, and I wish I had a husband as loving as yours. Haha! ๐