I found this necklace today in the bottom of a bag, all tangled up with about five other necklaces, and immediately set about extracting it from the jumble of chains and pendants. It’s one of my favorites and I thought I’d packed it away in storage with the rest of our lives.
I’m headed out to the Mom 2.0 Summit tomorrow morning and I needed this little reminder that I’m enough. Just me. Just as I am.
As I started packing this afternoon, I felt myself slipping into worry and doubt, mostly about how I’ll look. It feels like something I can control, and since I always feel like the least well-traveled person in the room, no matter how inaccurate that may be, that’s where my mind goes.
Do I look good enough? Do I look like I’m pulling this all together well? Do I sound like I know what I’m talking about? It’s often an exercise in faking it until I make it and quite frankly, all that worrying gets exhausting. Quickly. It robs me of the ability to pay attention to speakers and conversations and enjoy time with friends.
This will be my sixth blog conference, and the thing about all of them is that at any given moment, a majority of the people in the room don’t feel like they’re “enough.” We ALL struggle with insecurities and the person who says otherwise is lying. (No, really. They’re lying. To you or to themselves or both.)
Some of us struggle with our writing. Some of us struggle to make the right connections. Some of us struggle to know our worth. And, yes, some of us are just struggling with our Spanx.
The thing I’m trying to remember right now is that for all of my flaws, for all of my insecurities, I have strengths too. We all do. I’m tired of listening to my own brain tell me all the things I can’t do instead of the things I know I can do and do well.
Learning, being inspired, connecting, that’s why we’re there; turning ourselves into people whom we do not recognize is not.
You are enough. I am enough.
So if you see me this week at Mom 2.0 and you’re struggling with the feeling that you don’t belong, that you aren’t enough, say hi. We’ll be enough together.