I know I’ve mentioned before that the internet helped me through my PPD/A. Within days of logging on Twitter for the first time, I found the #PPDChat and from there I found more and more women like me. Women who were suffering or had suffered and survived and lived to tell the tale.
One of those women was Yael.
Yael Saar is a mama on a mission to remove guilt and shame from parenting. She is a PPD survivor, and as a result of that she became a Self-Kindness teacher. Yael is the Founder and Keeper of the Mama’s Comfort Camp, a Facebook community that functions as a safe haven and refueling station for hundreds of moms from around the world.
Yael recently asked me to guest post on the Mama’s Comfort Camp blog and I took up the topic of making your life a should-free zone.
As a new mom to Joshua, every piece of unsolicited advice was a pang of guilt in my heart. Hearing what I “should” do while trying to navigate the waters of what I wanted to do made life muddy and confusing. It all filled me with doubt about my ability to mother.
I gave in to the shoulds more often than I–er–should have…
After Emma was born, I decided to ignore the “shoulds.” Full stop.
Please click over and read the rest of this post, A Should-Free Zone, on the Mama’s Comfort Camp blog, and then, if you find yourself in need of a safe place, click around and check us out. The work Yael and the Den Mothers are doing to free mothers of guilt is important work.
I joined Yael and the Den Mothers in the Mama’s Comfort Camp several months back and guys, it’s such a peaceful, refreshing place. It’s a judgement and advice-free zone where women come together and share their struggles and their successes with one another. If you need that in your life, MCC is for you.
(Mama’s Comfort Camp is free and open to moms of kids of any age. Learn more about it here.)
Yael Saar
Thursday 13th of December 2012
Thank you so much for being a part of the camp and for writing this spot-on post. I just love it.