It’s day three of the D-Listed Blog Hop. A huge thanks to Alissa of Mommy and Molly and D-Listed itself for her hard work this week! If you’re new here from the Blog Hop, you can read my welcome entry here.
And if you’re a new follower/subscriber and I haven’t followed you back yet, please, PLEASE feel free to leave me a comment and say “Hey…here’s my link! Come check me out!” I want to read what you have to say!
Okay, now that that’s all out of the way, let’s get down to business!
It’s DAY THREE of the Guest-blog-a-palooza for PPD/PPA Awareness. Y’all have no idea how touched I am by all of your comments and encouragement and kind words this week, especially yesterday as I told my story. Hearing from y’all has let me know that I was right to do this. That this is good stuff happening here. I’m so excited.
Today’s guest post comes to you from none other than the man behind the non-Supermom. Yes. YES, ladies, you read that right. My husband Dan wrote today’s guest post. I was kind of nervous to ask him to write it, so I squeaked it out between bites of dinner one night. And at first, he was kind of like “Uhhh…ummm….what do I SAY?”
Well, that’s the beauty of a guest post. You can say anything (unless given a topic, a la the Coffee Talk sketch from SNL). So I told him to say what he felt regarding HIS experience with MY PPD/PPA. What has it been like for him?
Here’s what you should know about my husband.
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He’s incredibly smart. He loves to know “stuff.” If you can know it, he wants to know it. This is invaluable and frustrating. And one of the things I love about him, despite the frustration.
He’s a better writer than he thinks he is. His biggest fear was that he didn’t have the right sort of “voice” for this stule of writing. “I”m good at technical writing,” he says. “I don’t know if I can do this,” he says.
So, I said “You can do this.”
(okay…this conversation may not have taken place exactly like this, but he was nervous and I told him he’d be great. and he is. and he cooks, too.)
Anyway, without further ado, here’s my husband’s guest post. Be gentle.
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I am following you from the d-list but I am not sure if you are following me back, unless it's under a name I don't recognize. Here's my link:
http://love2cook05.blogspot.com/
Also, I think it's great that your husband wrote a guest post, about this topic in particular. He sounds a lot like my husband and if that is the case, you are indeed blessed as I am to have a man who tries to understand even when it's complicated at best.
Great idea. Love to hear the man's perspective.
My husband was frustrated in the same way – didn't understand why I wouldn't just "snap out of it" or that there wasn't a formula to "fix" it.
Great post by the hubby! My husband is a fixer too…I think it is a man thing. And he is so right, nothing can prepare you for the change after bringing home a new baby. NOTHING!
I can totally relate to what he is/was going through as I'm in that situation right now with my wife as she slowly improves… the good days and the bad. Perhaps all we need is a little more wine, beer, & chocolate. 🙂 Thanks for sharing!
I have always wondered how husbands deal with or relate to PPD/PPA. So glad that you asked him to share this. I think it must be very hard on husbands and new dads when there really is nothing they can do.
PS. To your husband. I work with engineers and there is no way could you have been one, that was entirely too well written. Nicely done.
Stopping by for the d-list blog party!!
Your husband's post is great – I love the perspective he brings to the issue. He obviously struggles right side along you. Great blog – I'll be following you now. amber 🙂
I love this post. I passed it on to my husband and I see he already commented 🙂 I know it's been hard for him to have to have so much on him while I try to get better. Husbands/spouses need as much support as we do! There is a LOT of patience and understanding for them to give!
Awesome post. Your hubby really shared some invaluable insight here! I'd love to cross post this at the Postpartum Dads Project (another blog of mine) aimed at Dads. Lemme know if that'd be ok. (url is http://www.postpartumdadsproject.org)
Thanks for sharing this with us!
Way to go Mr. May!
Your husband sounds exactly like my husband, engineer with personality and he's a fixer. I just forwarded him this post. Well written and I love hearing from the guys, because so often they're forgotten amidst our own struggles.
I found you through D-list and am a follower now 🙂
I really appreciate your perspective on PPD; I'm 20 weeks pregnant now and the potental of this has definitely crossed my mind. It is nice to know that there are a circle of moms who have lived to tell the tale and can offer support when other moms get there. THANKS!
http://www.thatmamagretchen.blogspot.com
Thank you so so much for sharing. My husband and I have talked about my PPD but we haven't really "talked" you know? It's great to hear a man's perspective. My hubby is very much the fix it guy too.
This is a really amazing post. Obviously he was and still is extremely supportive. You are extremely lucky!
Great guest blog post from your hubby!
I am so glad you are blogging about this issue. I suffered through PPD through my daughter's first year and into my second pregnancy. I just finally am getting 'fixed' now that my second daughter is almost a year. I hope others don't wait that long!!! Thanks again and have fun with the party!