Things weren’t bad, necessarily, but there were a few tense moments.
We went to our favorite Mexican place and I ordered a Dos XX, but left my ID in the car. DH went out to the car to get the license and when he was gone, M leans over the table and says “OK, while he’s gone so this isn’t weird or anything, please be nice to this girl. I really like her and I don’t want this to change our friendship, because I feel like it already has since we can’t all hang out anymore.” To which I replied: “I’ll be nice to her, but you’ve got to understand that this does change our friendship. This is different.” And then DH came back and we couldn’t continue talking about it.
I think M thinks that J and I are the holdouts on him being able to bring new girl around. He doesn’t realize that his male friends are just as irritated with this whole situation as his female friends are. I sort of take offense to the fact that he thinks I’d be mean to her on purpose, but I suppose I can expect that. I mean, I didn’t like L the first time I met her (but I was the only sober one that night, and I don’t usually take well to being the only sober one in the bunch. I loved her immensely the second time we got together.)
M is an “end result” kind of guy. He doesn’t want to put in the work that is necessary to get from point A to point B. He just wants to jump in a little timewarp spaceship and skip over all the painful post-breakup shit and get straight to happily-ever-after. I wanted to explain to him that this hurts! And it puts J and me in an awkward position if he brings this girl around. How can we lie to our best friend about where we’ve been and what we’ve been doing? Lies of omission are still lies! And how do we tell her that we’ve been hanging out with M and he’s brought new girl around? Then she’s going to want to know everything that she doesn’t need to know and then I won’t be able to tell her because I want to save her heart.
I HATE THE POSITION HE’S PUTTING ALL OF US IN, DAMNIT!!!
no quotes right now….god I’m so mad at him.